A New Kind of Relating
Chill
Becoming a Worthy Opponent to Your History
Chill is a relational learning club for adults exploring the process of waking up — not as an ideal, not as a spiritual achievement, but as a lived, embodied experience.
Most “awakening” communities focus on outcomes: enlightenment, transcendence, freedom from story.
Chill focuses on something more useful: flavors to taste when your presence and your history are at odds.
Sometimes that meeting is frightening.
Sometimes it’s disorienting.
And—something rarely acknowledged—it is often surprisingly pleasant.
Chill exists to make space for all of that.
What We Do
Chill meets weekly in a simple, repeatable rhythm:
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Mondays (4-5:30pm EST, complementary) — Film & Theme
We watch and discuss films that function as metaphors for the process of waking up, not the outcome. These films set the emotional and thematic “weather” for the week.
Our first film is Pleasantville, used to explore curiosity, fear, pleasure, and the gradual appearance of color in lived experience.
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Tuesdays & Thursdays (7-8:30pm EST) — Chill Sessions
These sessions focus on relational practice, curiosity, and learning how to stay present without collapsing into story or performance.
Tuesday emphasizes play and practice.
Thursday emphasizes integration and digestion.
Participation is encouraged but never forced.
Adults may observe, speak, or stay quiet.
How We Work
Chill treats learning as something that happens between people, not inside doctrines.
We explore:
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Curiosity (including curiosity in the age of AI)
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The six curiosity archetypes
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Relational “flavors” (how experience shows up, not what it means)
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Learning as loss, not accumulation
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The moment when the “floor goes away” and how to practice staying upright anyway
Everyone begins at Club Ball, where we practice the fundamentals of the game: showing up, responding cleanly, staying playful, and learning how to become a worthy opponent to one’s own history.
Additional levels may emerge over time, but advancement is not the point. Staying in the game is.
Etiquette and Responsibility
Chill is built on a few clear agreements:
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Etiquette is king
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Relational containers function like a surf lineup
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Movement responds to the moment
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Not everyone can surf the same wave at the same time
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We celebrate good rides
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We have each others' backs
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Experiences and stories are waves—some you surf, some you let pass
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Own your yes, your no, and your “cricket”
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Your emotional and spiritual safety are your responsibility
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Adults can say anything
This is not therapy.
This is not treatment.
This is not advice.
Chill is a learning environment for adults willing to take responsibility for their own interpretations, choices, and awakening.
Education
2015-2017
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2011-2014
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2007-2010
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Quick Deets
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The Hunger
You’re not broken.
You’re rehearsed.
Same reactions.
Same stories.
Same relational choreography no matter how much insight you’ve collected.
You’ve read the books.
You’ve talked it through.
You know why you do what you do.
And yet...your body keeps choosing the familiar move.
Test Dummy exists because understanding isn’t the same as embodied practice.
And aliveness doesn’t come from insight alone.
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The Practice Field
This is a live, relational practice field that lasts from January 15, 2026 to March 15, 2026.
As a group, we meet twice a week to build and rehearse new relational moves, in real time, with real people doing the same.
This is not a space for analysis. It's not a space for advice. It's a space to build practices, feel the burn of the ego when you fail spectacularly, and then experience the liberation of trying again and getting novel results.
You’ll experiment with:
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asking questions that matter to you
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building practices that crack your ego open
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practicing in spaces designed for spilling the water
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responding with your new interpretations of reality under the pressure of having witnesses
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how your thoughts, emotions, and habits hijack (or support) choice and the life you want to live
Sometimes you’ll move.
Sometimes you’ll watch.
Sometimes you’ll notice the exact moment you usually disappear...and the opportunity to try something else.
Small group. High presence.
Structured enough to understand and practice the task at hand.
Improvised enough to simulate real-life relational spaces.
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The Risk and Choice
This is not therapy.
It’s not coaching.
And it’s not for spectators who want guarantees.
Your ego will be challenged.
Your patterns will be visible.
Nothing will be forced.
You choose how far you go.
You can pause. You can pass. You can step in again.
This is a place to taste new relational possibilities before deciding whether you want to live them.
If you’re ready to practice instead of explain, you’re welcome to apply.
$200 per person (no refunds).
Slow Details
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Consent
Consent is everything, and in this space, you are expected to own your yes, no, and avocado (safe word).
To be enrolled in this class, you must read a consent worksheet and earn a 100% on a quiz about consent.
Once understanding about consent has been verified, then the work can begin.
Each Practice Session has a structure. They will consist of a short discussion or lecture, a prompt, time to question and explore, time to write or practice, and time to perform.
That is the structure of practice.
As we get to know each other, new kinds of acitivites will inevitably emerge; however, the structure of class will not change.
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The Audience
This is a practice space.
But practice for what?
For showtime, dummy.
Performances will be recorded and shared after consent is given.
The entire point of this class, however, is to create Season Three of Kairos, Curios, and Columns of Otherwise.
Meaning...if you don't intend on telling a vulnerable story on a podcast, then don't apply.
The recorded performances will be offered as an audio album that people will be able to purchase.
Participants in this storytelling and relational field will be paid a percentage on all profits earned from the album.
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Requirements
Pen names are required.
Due to the nature of the content we'll be exploring, you are expected to keep yourself anonymous by showing up as a character, not as you.
The first day of class will consist of (a) practicing the act of owning your yes, no and avocado and (b) introducing your imaginary characters and their values. And for the second day of class, we'll jump right into the heat and invite Kraye to function in the group as a storytelling prompt creator.
A signed release form will be required.
Spill the Water will own all of the recorded content.
If you have questions, include them in your application that you can submit on the Inquire page.